Keep leadership in perspective. It’s not like the movies; it’s just creating the right conditions for people to succeed.
-Rick Brennan
I’ve come to understand that my brain works very differently from most people. Having none of the skills or aptitudes that the establishment tells us is required to be successful. Yet over time, I found solutions to my challenges, developed strategies and cultivated skills that would eventually set me apart from the so called intelligent, high achiever that the establishment seems fixated on.
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I used support staff to edit my correspondence.
I actively search for help
Thank god for the invention of spell check!
Creating time was essential
I became an expert in simplification, clarifying, delegation and organization.
I only scanned documents, didn’t read non-critical emails, only attended relevant meetings and calls.
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I developed a short form of mental math that approximated numbers pretty well.
Although I couldn’t grasp the intricacy of financial spreadsheets, I focused on practical application.
I became an expert on how to drive profitability and productivity and control expenses.
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My working brain would often get cluttered with needless information so I learned to clear my brain plate by placing tasks on a to-do list.
This simple process was a game changer. It opened up space in my working brain and allowed me to better process information, resulting in better mental function.
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The best way to control my anxiety was to bring clarity to my actions by being organized
I learned to surround myself with the right people.
I picked my friends carefully
Reading books like “The Power of Now” help put my troubles into perspective.
I learned to accept that my feelings of anxiety were just who I was.
Taking courses like Dale Carnegie’s gave me a real-life benchmark that helped me put things in perspective and take ownership of my actions
Cannabis helped to relax
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I learned that by writing my issues down on a to-do list, I erased them from my repetitive thinking loop.
Many times, I’d be laying in bed unable to stop thinking, I’d get up, write it down, go back to bed and sleep like a baby.
Incredibly simple but effective.
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I went and got tested by a psychologist. This allowed me to understand that my brain worked differently than other people's.
It gave me confidence and I stopped comparing myself to others.
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I slowly faced my fears and confronted them head-on.
Taking Dale Carnegie helped, and I even became a teaching assistant to expand my skills further.
I followed that by doing a lot of speaking in smaller groups.
I learnt to stick to, my easygoing presentation style and never do a presentation created by someone else.
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My journey through life would show me that winning is a very momentary emotion and that, what actually matters are the connections we make with people, the trust and respect we share and the positive impact we have on one another.
I also discovered that my need to win was really my fear of failure, this flipped my thinking to a better way to approach life.
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It would take me years to figure out the negative impact that gluten had on my cognitive processing abilities.
How the aftermath of drinking created anxiety and how caffeine gave me anxiety (jitters).
I would eventually learn to control my diet and when I did, it had a tremendous positive impact on every aspect of my life.